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Recommended Sex Education Resources

Books:

Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski

Guide to Getting it on by Paul Joannides

Becoming Cliterate by Laurie Mintz

Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel

Websites:

Sex Education Website https://www.guide2getting.com

Covers All Sexual Related Topics https://sexualityresources.com

Sexual Exploration https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VPrVAyCxkQ8

Improving Your Sex Life

Books:

Passion: Erotic Romance for Women by Rachel Kramer Bussel

A Tired Woman's Guide to Passionate Sex by Laurie Mintz

Reclaiming Your Sexual Self by Katherine Hall

Reclaiming Desire: 4 Keys to Finding your Lost Libido by Andrew Goldstein

Websites: 

Learning Pleasure for Women https://www.omgyes.com/?swv=true

Sex Games https://timefortwo.com/romantic-games/

Sex Props https://www.liberator.com/liberator-sex-furniture.html

Sex Toys https://www.hotoctopuss.com

Products:

Lubricant https://aloecadabra.com/

Basic Vibrator https://www.amazon.com/SENDRY-Wand-Massager-Waterproof-Rechargeable/dp/B0875NHL99/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=vibrator&qid=1629252946&sr=8-2&th=1

Womanizer https://www.womanizer.com/us/

Lelo https://www.lelo.com/sona

Eva II https://www.freepeople.com/shop/dame-eva-ii/?color=001&type=REGULAR&size=One%20Size&quantity=1

Improving Your Relationship

Books:

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman

And Baby Makes Three by John Gottman 

The High Conflict Couple by Alen Fruzzetti

Marriageology: The are and Science of Staying Together by Belinda Luscombe

Websites: 

4 Horseman of Communication https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1o30Ps-_8is&t=44s

Communication Time Outs https://terryreal.com/10-commandments-of-time-outs/


Focus on Your Healing and Growth

Books:

Rising Strong by Brene Brown

Trust After Trauma by Aphrodite Matsakis

8 Keys for Practicing Mindfulness by Manuela Mischke-Reeds

Sex, God, and the Conservative Church by Tina Schermer Sellers

Websites:

Grounding Techniques https://scottjeffrey.com/how-to-ground-yourself/

Religion and Shame http://www.thankgodforsex.org

Body Shame https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Uy8yLaoWybk

Mens' Sexual Trauma https://menhealing.org

DBT Skills https://www.sunrisertc.com/distress-tolerance-skills/


Wholistic Wellness


Mindfulness and Meditation

Doctors are calling stress the Black Plague of our century...

According to Harvard Medical School stress is an epidemic that is responsible for 90% of all doctors visits. It can negatively impact your relationships and your ability to perform at the top of your game. It's become so widespread that we all accept it as "normal" to have insomnia, digestive issues and chronic anxiety.

Spending just 2% of your day on meditation can transform your health.

Learn more at: 

https://stresslessthebook.com

Orgasm

Orgasms bring blood flow to your pelvis, which helps keep your tissues strong and thick and your pelvic muscles strong and flexible. It also utilizes your circulatory system and your nervous system, and helps keep everything running smoothly. 


Endless information from the Vaginal Renewal Program can be found at:


https://sexualityresources.com


Exercise 

Exercise not only makes you physically healthier, but mentally too! 

When we exercise we feel more positive, confident, and motivated. 

Exercise is the #1 way to reduce stress! 

And when we raise our heart-rate with our partner at the gym, it also helps facilitate cardio in the bedroom.

Walking daily with your partner is a great activity that duals as quality time.


Exercise has not only been shown to enhance sexual function, but also to be an effective treatment for depression and anxiety.

Diet/Nutrition

We all know that diet is an important aspect of our physical​ and mental health. Try eating organic fruits and vegetables with every meal to get in those nutrients that make us look and feel our best. 

Cooking dinner together and/or eating together is another way to get in quality time with your partner!

Sleep

Without enough quality sleep every aspect of your health and your daily functioning is affected. 

Sleep impacts weight, memory, learning, metabolism, mood, immunity, cardiovascular health, appetite, concentration, productivity, depression, relationships, etc. 

Try the Calm app to help quiet the mind when trying to sleep.

Communication Tips

-Try not to interrupt when the other person is speaking, let them finish

-Reflect back what you heard, this will let you know if what you heard is what your partner was trying to say and will allow the other person to feel heard/understood

-Share your perspective and feelings in a way that will not put your partner on the defensive 


Connection Tips

-Be present and in the moment, when your partner is speaking, give them your full attention

-Show affection in a way your partner will feel loved, for some that is touch and for others it is an act of kindness

-Have time without electronics, either over dinner, in the bedroom, or on a walk

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