Resources for a Healthier You
Podcasts
Recommended Sex Education Resources
Books:
Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski
Guide to Getting it on by Paul Joannides
Becoming Cliterate by Laurie Mintz
Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel
Websites:
Sex Education and Taboo Topics - https://www.guide2getting.com
Sex Education Resource Center and Sexuality Products Shop - https://sexualityresources.com
Sexual Exploration Video - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VPrVAyCxkQ8
Improving Your Sex Life
Books:
Passion: Erotic Romance for Women by Rachel Kramer Bussel
A Tired Woman's Guide to Passionate Sex by Laurie Mintz
Reclaiming Your Sexual Self by Katherine Hall
Reclaiming Desire: 4 Keys to Finding your Lost Libido by Andrew Goldstein
Websites:
Exploring Specific Ways Women Find Pleasure - https://www.omgyes.com/
Romantic Games - https://timefortwo.com/romantic-games/
Sex Furniture - https://www.liberator.com/liberator-sex-furniture.html
Sex Toys - https://www.hotoctopuss.com
Erotic Blueprint Quiz - https://missjaiya.com/
Products:
Lubricant - https://aloecadabra.com/
Basic Vibrator - https://www.amazon.com/SIKXTOA-Personal-Massager-Speeds-Patterns-dp-B08LDFRB3R/dp/B08LDFRB3R
Womanizer - https://www.womanizer.com/us/
Lelo - https://www.lelo.com/sona
Eva II - https://www.freepeople.com/shop/dame-eva-ii/
Improving Your Relationship
Books:
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman
And Baby Makes Three by John Gottman
The High Conflict Couple by Alen Fruzzetti
Marriageology: The are and Science of Staying Together by Belinda Luscombe
Websites:
4 Horseman of Communication - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1o30Ps-_8is&t=44s
Communication Time Outs - https://terryreal.com/10-commandments-of-time-outs/
Love Language Quiz - https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/love-language
Focus on Your Healing and Growth
Books:
Rising Strong by Brene Brown
Trust After Trauma by Aphrodite Matsakis
8 Keys for Practicing Mindfulness by Manuela Mischke-Reeds
Sex, God, and the Conservative Church by Tina Schermer Sellers
Websites:
Grounding Techniques - https://scottjeffrey.com/how-to-ground-yourself/
Religion and Shame - http://www.thankgodforsex.org
Body Shame - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Uy8yLaoWybk
Mens' Sexual Trauma - https://menhealing.org
DBT Skills - https://www.sunrisertc.com/distress-tolerance-skills/
Wholistic Wellness
Mindfulness and Meditation
Doctors are calling stress the Black Plague of our century...
According to Harvard Medical School stress is an epidemic that is responsible for 90% of all doctors visits. It can negatively impact your relationships and your ability to perform at the top of your game. It's become so widespread that we all accept it as "normal" to have insomnia, digestive issues and chronic anxiety.
Spending just 2% of your day on meditation can transform your health.
Learn more at: https://stresslessthebook.com
Orgasm
Orgasms improve our mood and bond us with our partner by releasing hormones in the brain.
Orgasms bring blood flow to your pelvis, which helps keep your tissues strong and thick and your pelvic muscles strong and flexible. It also utilizes your circulatory system and your nervous system, and helps keep everything running smoothly.
Endless information from the Vaginal Renewal Program can be found at: https://sexualityresources.com
Exercise
Exercise not only makes you physically healthier, but mentally too!
When we exercise we feel more positive, confident, and motivated.
Exercise is the #1 way to reduce stress!
And when we raise our heart-rate with our partner at the gym, it also helps facilitate cardio in the bedroom.
Walking daily with your partner is a great activity that duals as quality time.
Exercise has not only been shown to enhance sexual function, but also to be an effective treatment for depression and anxiety.
Diet/Nutrition
We all know that diet is an important aspect of our physical and mental health. Try eating organic fruits and vegetables with every meal to get in those nutrients that make us look and feel our best.
Cooking dinner together and/or eating together is another way to get in quality time with your partner!
Learn how a vegan diet may improve erections at:
https://www.menshealth.com.au/the-game-changes-vegan-diet-can-boost-erections
Sleep
Without enough quality sleep every aspect of your health and your daily functioning is affected.
Sleep impacts weight, memory, learning, metabolism, mood, immunity, cardiovascular health, appetite, concentration, productivity, depression, relationships, etc.
Try the Calm or Insight Timer app to help quiet the mind when trying to sleep.
Hormones
Hormones play a large role in our physical and emotional well-being.
There are many old myths about hormone replacement therapy (HRT).
Both males and females can benefit from being evaluated for HRT.
If an evaluation is part of our holistic approach, Jessica Patterson at Vitality Wellness can help.
https://www.vitalityvirginia.com
Communication Tips
Try not to interrupt when the other person is speaking, let them finish
Reflect back what you heard, this will let you know if what you heard is what your partner was trying to say and will allow the other person to feel heard/understood
Share your perspective and feelings in a way that will not put your partner on the defensive
Connection Tips
Be present and in the moment, when your partner is speaking, give them your full attention
Show affection in a way your partner will feel loved, for some that is touch and for others it is an act of kindness
Have time without electronics, either over dinner, in the bedroom, or on a walk