Many people work hard at avoiding conflict. It may seem easier to avoid an issue rather than address one. However, these issues don’t disappear, but instead they pile up. At some point, the issues are brought up as a weapon in an argument or it all becomes too much and people walk away from the relationship. But, these don’t have to be the only options. Couples can have healthy conflict and clear the air. There are many benefits to having difficult conversations.

1. Clarity

People are able to speak faster than they can process words and information. Communicating about possible misunderstandings can clear up and prevent further hurt feelings and frustrations. You may also learn more about the other person’s needs as well as have opportunity to be more vulnerable yourself.

2. Closeness

Vulnerability is just what is takes to have a deeper, more fulfilling relationship. Contrary to what most people assume, difficult conversations usually make the relationship stronger and more authentic. Vulnerability is needed for close emotional and physical connection.

3. Closure

Instead of trying to “sweep it under the rug”, let out the thoughts and feelings you are having. The issue only grows when ignored or comes back out as a trigger at a worse time. Instead of letting what bothered you fester, address it with your partner and allow yourself resolution and closure.

4. Confidence

Going through a conflict and having difficult conversations with someone strengthens the relationship, the bond, and your confidence. People become more confident in themselves for having healthy communication skills and boundaries and they gain confidence in the newly strengthened relationship.

In sessions we practice healthy conflict. Couples can continue the conversations at home and find the resolutions they are looking for. If you are interested in learning more about how therapy can help you, contact me so we can get you on the same page.